Sabiha Sultana
Most Indians might have gone abroad for studies or jobs. Soon after visiting other nations, what do you think might have happened? Do they feel like returning back to India? Or settling in the same countries.
Do you also wonder about this? If yes, Reddit users have answered all your questions.
1) Immature Society. Yet a better standard of living as a software engineer
I moved to India from Kuwait around 2 years ago. Pretty good, same salary but a better standard of living as a software engineer I probably won’t stay for more than a couple more years though, society isn’t maturing as far as payscales. people are still kinda weird and antagonistic if you don’t fit into the mould they expect.
2) Judgmental People with poor social skills
People are nosey and judgemental for no reason. Simultaneously, have very poor social skills and will try and ego challenge you about whatever they’re insecure about (wealth/fitness level/attractiveness etc).
3) Easier life with less competition Abroad
You have assumed that people that left India did so for better education and opportunities. That might have been the case earlier, however, most people nowadays leave for a better, easier life in a low competition/low-stress environment. I stay in a small city in Canada and would never move to competitive places like USA or India. People around me are happy living non-ambitious lives in this city as well. People in India and big cities in the USA seem way too deep in the rat race and don’t seem to understand there’s more to life than being “successful.”
4) Life is stress-free in Canada and US
Life is much better in Canada or US. There is literally no reason to come back to India. I visit India for 3-4 weeks every few years to scratch the itch and usually get drained by the end of the trip. Kids that are born and brought up overseas think of India as some alien country for the most part so there is very little attachment in that aspect. Education overseas is also much more superior, so you aren’t doing your kids any favours by forcing them back. Overall life is so much simpler and stress-free, you have to be a hardcore believer to want to go back. Either that or you have some other compelling reason like your parents etc.
5) Fear of being followed even at 12 am in Public transport
As a woman, I am so glad that I can take public transportation even at 12 a.m. and not be constantly worried about being followed or fear for my safety. I love the freedom to exist as a human being with equal opportunities everywhere. Calling this better would be an understatement, it is truly the definition of living. On top of that, nobody cares what I wear or drink or who I meet.
6) There is no freedom for girls
The same thing happened to me, seeing what a low crime society looks like was a game-changer. People don’t even realize, they’ve no idea how bad their lives are – it sounds condescending, but being poor doesn’t mean you have to be in survival mode constantly. I’m back home again (thanks to COVID), and the inability to do the same things I used to do just because I’m a girl is driving me mad and my primary motivation is to leave again.
7) Sick of Pollution and allergies
Unlike some of my friends, moving abroad wasn’t a goal for me while coming out of college. Had a good job and was happy with my life in Bangalore. But 9 years of working in Bangalore took its toll. I was often sick due to pollution/allergies etc. Tried to look for a house to buy in the city and realized that half of the city doesn’t have water supply and the places that do are out of my budget. We were also planning on having kids and wanted a better life for them. We moved to the U.S 3 years ago and do not want to return anytime soon. The only thing I miss is my parents. And as long as they are healthy, and are able to come visit us and stay here for extended periods of time, I have no reason to go back. I am still not sure what I would do when they grow old and need my support regularly.
8) Stuck Between two nations
I wish I did return to India when my kids were younger. It is too late now. I am juggling between 2 countries as my parents are getting old and are weak and need me. Right now I am in India taking care of my parents, but my mind is in the USA with my family. I can’t stay anywhere peacefully. Education seems too materialistic at this point in my life. What is an education without many well-rounded life experiences?
9) When money doesn’t attract you
The funny thing about these questions always is, most of the people who say “I am not coming back!” are usually young and have lived abroad for only a few years. Initially, the money and the glamour feels great. I was like that in my mid-20s, I was like ‘I am never going back.’ Most of the people who have lived abroad for more than 10 years seem to think about coming back as the money is no longer as attractive and the glamour fades away.
10) When success can shift the entire family abroad
There are people who successfully moved their parents abroad with them too. Trying my best to get my siblings here as well. There is absolutely no comparison between the quality of life in the Western world and India.
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